Beth Willis Miller, M.Ed.,
co-author of Under His Wings:
Truths to Heal Adopted, Orphaned, and Waiting
LJ, adoptee from Johannesburg, South Africa
This is also an incredible way for even an adoptive parent to sit along side their adopted child and work through it with them! Love it, own it and share it with others!-D.J.Petrik
From the Authors
Sherrie and Beth
From the Inside Flap
This workbook is intended to help you determine what impact separation from your first family has had on your present day life. This won't be an ethereal exercise. It will be practical so that you will know beyond a doubt that you have worked through your painful past. Then, chapter titles will reflect the thoughts you'll have once growth has begun. How exciting is that?
Prepare to be challenged! Studying the Bible will be an integral part of each chapter because we don't want you to put a band-aid on a gaping wound. Complete healing cannot occur apart from God. If you have never studied the Bible, we suggest purchasing an easy-to-understand version, such as the New Living Translation. Be sure to bring your Bible with you if you're using this material in a group or with a counselor or parent. Don't worry if you aren't familiar with the Bible. We will help you!
Prepare to make life-changing decisions also. You will be asked at the end of every chapter, "What is the take-away? How is my life going to change as a result of studying and applying what I have learned in this chapter?"
For maximum growth, be sure to complete every chapter. The old adage, "You get out of it what you put into it" is true here. Now that we've seen the overview of the workbook, let's take a closer look at what we can expect in every chapter.
- "I feel like something's missing."
- "I often feel like I don't belong."
- "I blow up easily and hurt others."
- "I sometimes fantasize about my birth family."
- "I am confused about my identity."
- "I push myself to be perfect."
- "I am terrified of rejection."
- "I struggle with self-esteem."
- "I get uptight whenever I think about meeting my birth family."
- "I have a unique life purpose!"
- "I can see how God is working in my life!"
- "I can now take rejection in stride!"
- "I am amazed that God wants to be my friend!"
- "I enjoy helping others grow!"
- "I can now see my adoption experience through God's eyes!"
After you've learned to rest beneath His wings, He'll teach you to fly and then soar through any of life's storms, with your eye on the goal--knowing Jesus. This workbook will show you how to:
- Enjoy unshakeable self-esteem
- Conquer anger and rage
- Identify and reverse sabotaging behaviors
- Talk about our first family without feeling guilty
- Know that our struggles aren't weird, but common
- Embrace our unique life purpose
About the Authors
- A twice-reunited adoptee, Eldridge is a straight-shooting, transparent, and compassionate author, speaker, and trainer in the field of adoption. Her books are research-based, yet woven within are poignant messages pounded out on the anvil of her adoptee heart. This is what makes Eldridge unique! Because her books hit core needs, readers review her work with anger or thanks. She takes this in stride, knowing its the price of being a pioneer and that many critics return with thanks. One adoptive parent said she had a beautiful heart because she had the courage to tell him what his daughter might experience. In 2010, Eldridge received the Congressional Angel in Adoption Award from the Honorable Congressman Dan Burton of Indiana.
- Beth Willis Miller is a reunited adoptee with a Master's degree in Education, in curriculum, instruction, and supervision. She writes articles at bethwillismiller.blogspot.com on a variety of topics to inspire and encourage others. Her expertise as a creative and critical thinking specialist is steeped in years of experience as a writer, presenter, educator and former Florida Department of Education State Consultant for Gifted Education. She is married with two adult children, and one grandson.